Listen, can you believe this? I am actually involved in a “funny” conversation right now on Facebook about men willing to have sex with women who have stretch marks. I am not kidding, a photo of a woman with a pretty decent-sized (big) tummy with stretch marks was posted, and the question was asked whether men would hit it from the back only or be okay with seeing her stretch marks (or some stupid shit like that). *crickets*
First off, i can’t believe men and women over 35 years old are even having this discussion. As I sat there and read all the posts from the women and men, I literally was shaking my head off my neck…well not literally, but you get the point. I mean I get it a little, when I earned my stripe with my twins, I really didn’t like my body, but then I grew up!
Here I am, 44 years old, I know I am not hard on the eyes, and frankly I finally have a healthy body image; I own my feminine prowess and sex appeal, and I’m quite apt in utilizing my feminine wiles if necessary, I’m just saying. But what in the entire H-E-L-L I look like giving a rat’s ass about the stretch marks on my stomach? I mean I earned these bad boys, I brought three “chirren” into this world, I even carried twins. And until you carry two over 6lb babies in your stomach, you can’t say shit to me about stretch marks! This has literally caused me to be befuddled in the middle of my work day, so you know me, I had to share and see what you all think.
I mean do you men really think we choose these marks that leave our stomachs looking like a brain? But the better question is, why as a grown man, who supposedly is mature, logical, intellectual, and understands what is really important in life, are you asking a question about whether another man would have sex with a woman with stretch marks? When I see or hear a man pose these questions, even if he claims it isn’t what he thinks (he is lying otherwise he wouldn’t have asked it) it lets me know two things off the top: 1) This man has no depth and has the life skills and fortitude of a 12 year old pre-pubescent boy and 2) He has yet to evolve to see women other than tools to fulfill his lustful desires. Selfish, surface-ass children! I said it, I mean it, and I ain’t taking this shit back! Sisters, hear me and hear me well, you are a woman, you have the ability to change the world. WE are the most powerful beings on earth! We create life, give life, deliver the future through our wombs, we don’t have to allow men to determine if our bodies are suitable to them, hell they need to have a come-to-Jesus about their privilege for even being able to enter into our sacred places. Here is the kicker to it all, they then reduce and justify this type of rationale by saying “everyone has preferences, some men like them, some don’t”. Well if stretch marks are determining factors for whether you would date/court/be in a relationship/sleep with a woman, then this type of man really isn’t someone capable of “adulting” at all. Don’t let these asinine, immature grown ass men, incapable of high-level thinking penetrate your minds or bodies anymore; don’t even give them the idea they have anything to do with you getting chosen by them. Sisters, your bodies are sacred temples, never let anyone determine your worth based on your outer accoutrements. Shoot, if you got stretch marks, I challenge you to keep those lights on, because this ain’t got nothing to do with Teddy Pendergrass, and make that man kiss all on them and rub some Emu oil on them! Because baby, you’re still sexy, even with that brain on your stomach!
I just be damn! I need me a Ketel One martini NOW! 😆
Now I know I promised this blog would never be about male bashing, and it isn’t and won’t be, but I just had to share my thoughts on this. Nah, I’m not mad, really I’m not; this was actually a light-hearted blog that was just very blunt and pointed. But if ya mad, get glad!
Until next time,