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Stop the Cooch Abuse!

This is about to be good. Listen, I already know I’m going to get major push back equally from men and women, but this isn’t written for men, so their opinions on this matter really don’t hold much weight. ijs

I’m about to free some of you, women and men; I am about to challenge some notions many women have held onto and taught men to accept and expect. So much wrong information is out here, I am about to school some of you. Listen, if you’re embarrassed easily or just a straight up prude, keep on reading.

I’m just going to put it out here, you ladies out here shaving your cooch-cooch baby butt-bottom bald, “you need to cut it”….OUT! WHO TOLD US SHAVING OUR PUBIC AREAS BALD IS HYGIENIC OR NECESSARY?  I am 44 years old, and I am going to admit, I had never, ever waxed my hair until I was probably in my late 30’s, and I’ve only had one Brazilian wax ever in my life two years ago. I mean, I never had any issues, so now I’m wondering what in thee hell is going on. Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve trimmed the bush before, and even shaved myself before, but it was never a regular thing and never something I even thought men cared about. But I’m telling you, the game has indeed changed. I have seen men in my generation sitting up here having expectations of grown ass women having bald pubic areas. Like, what the hell is going on? I mean I know of women my age and older sitting up here getting Brazilians, and y’all know your mothers and grandmas ain’t ever taught you to shave. I didn’t start shaving my legs until after high school because my daddy told me black girls didn’t shave their legs, and hairy legs were sexy, and he told me to go look at my mama’s legs. And yep, she had hairy legs. That’s the male vantage point I came from; hair just wasn’t nasty or indicative of poor hygiene and men liked that shit.

I am not going to tackle the hygiene part of why shaving isn’t necessary, I want to hip you to something I think is very important in the dating/mating game. Let me stop and say, this blog is inspired by my boy Javonne, because he said something in a video last week that made me do some Google research, and I be damn, it seems absolutely true. When he said what he said, my energy aligned with it so I received it as true, but I just had to read it for myself. And he was right.

Back in the day, we used to be drawn to people, I mean like “intoxicatingly” drawn to them. I honestly used to be so attracted and turned on by men that had a bit of a sweaty smell under his arms, not musty, sweaty, and it was weird that was a turn on for me. I love men with hairy armpits. I can’t explain it, it is just manly and sexual to me. And men, I know for a fact, there is a certain odor that turns you on, and you know what I’m talking about, but it is something you love, and every woman is different. You all want to know what that is…PHEROMONES.

Pheromones are odorous substances that we secrete and emit from our glands, and HAIR function as receptors for these secretions that we don’t see. Little magic wands! Come on now, think about this even, why do you think women are so attracted to beards now days, they think they are sexy, and they are drawn to men part of the #BeardGang?  Ladies, you ever been around a man with a beard? Tell the truth, the allure is captivating isn’t it?  Umhmmm, starting to see my point?

It seems the allure of mating is gone; true dating is a mating game, and no I’m not talking about just having sex. But like other mammals in the animal kingdom, we too can pick up on the right scent, right nature of a potential mate, it’s how we are drawn to them. The allure of forbidden sex appeal is gone, and people are just moving on the outward appearance and not drawn by that something anymore; not drawn by the personal essence of a woman, or man. It’s all a part of what we call chemistry. I hear now more than ever, people just aren’t experiencing chemistry with people any more. I am telling you, I believe I know a small reason why; keep on laughing, but hear me out. Here is the lesson I’m about to “learn” you today: We are waxing, shaving, and exfoliating all of our essence away, our pheromones away. STOP IT!!!!

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STOP THE COOCH ABUSE!

Now with all that said, I am not advocating not washing the cooch or even some general “maintenance” if you must, especially if you can do a twist out down there, trim your baby (a low-cut fade will work too), and god knows, don’t nobody wanna smell no musty, sweaty, hairy balls, I’m just saying.  This is something to think about, besides, we need our hair down there, even under the arms, and our legs. Ladies, some of us have bought into this myth our vaginas are supposed to be “pretty” and smell like an oil burner with potpourri. GIRL, YOUR VAGINA LOOKS AND SMELL THE WAY IT IS SUPPOSED TO SMELL, STOP SHAVING THINKING YOU ARE GOING TO BE CLEANER. GET. IT. TOGETHER.  You don’t need to shave or wax in order to be clean, your va-jay-jay is like a self-cleaning oven. Who lied to us!? If you have an issue with odor being trapped in your hair, then you need to examine your diet and drink more water, bathe more, or go see your “lady doctor” because you have something else going on! Girl, get yo life! And to the men complaining about vaginal hair during sex. I tell you what, I bet your daddy and granddaddy weren’t complaining, and if they “doth protest” about doing a certain deed, then in the words of Beyonce, “middle fingers up, tell him ‘boy bye”!  I am going to say this, most grown men I know don’t care and do not want to see a hairless cooch.

I’m just saying, it’s time to STOP THE COOCH ABUSE! Who’s with me…or not? LOL

OAN ladies, I want to give you a suggestion that will change your life. If you want a va-jay-jay that is always balanced, fresh, and “normal”, let me suggest you slather it daily after showering with COCONUT OIL. Yes you heard me, coconut oil. I love that stuff. I swear by it. I shower, without soap, per doctor’s order, and then I dry and use a very liberal amount of coconut oil. I never go a day without it. Try it, you’ll thank me later!

Until next time,

Smooches sugas!

 

 

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198 thoughts on “Stop the Cooch Abuse!

  1. I actually think bald coochee is something preferred by pedophiles. No grown woman should be expected to have a bald va-jay-jay.

    Loved the article.

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  2. Very good article, i have been an advocate of natural vaginas for years. I have noticed that it is a generational thing for the most part. I believe the trend became vogue when porn stars in the mid-1980’s began shaving their pubic hair for roles that required a pre-pubescent look such as baby-sitters, cheerleaders and catholic school girls. Men liked it and began asking their women to shave and it trickled down from there.

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  3. Oh my word! So, I have recently had this conversation with several of my girls. One, who can’t understand why women aren’t lined up to wax their “cooch”, citing hygienic reasons, and low to no order, etc., the other gets hers faithfully waxed every 6 weeks, my bestie and myself think its absolutely crazy and don’t do it. Both our Manfriends dont care. However, my ex boyfriend would request it every blue moon and even said he wld give me more southern pleasure if I did. His reason wasnt odor, he said it was sexier, and felt nice against his body. So, I let him shave me once, I know I was brave; it was 1 of the most erotic things I ever experienced. But it never happened again, after the hair started to grow back in. Dear me thats a horrible feeling. And then his desire for it became a turn off. Especially after I called him on why I think he liked it, he then let it go. He watched a lot of porn. Porn! Yep these men see female porn stars clean shaven, attempting to look younger and younger. And it’s dangerously close to petaphilia to me.
    Look, I am a grown ass woman, hair there is a covering of honor and protection. Now like you, I do cut back the hedges, but this waxing practice is indeed unnecessary. You are so right about the pheromones as well. Nothing sexier then a man that smells like a damn hard as working man and every real man I know, loves the way a woman’s cooch,smells, and since I believe mine is a rare and precious commodity, I choose to protect it as it was made. If he can’t handle it, oh another real brother will. Court me, woo me, please me as I am.

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  4. I read the article. Nice read. I agree with what you say in this article. Once upon a time, I actually tried the bald coochie “look”. I hated it! It didn’t feel natural to me. I mean, I am a grown Black WOMAN, not a little girl, after all. I think I tried it because a man I was dating asked me if I would shave it. So I did. Just that once I went with the bald coochie. I haven’t been bald since and he doesn’t have a problem with it just cut low, either. As long as he can get to the goods he’s fine, I guess. LOL! He hasn’t said anything about it. I used to keep it long, but I keep it just long enough now. Thank you for this article, MarlaPruitte!!! Very enjoyable read!

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  5. This is an really great atticle! I was religiously getting myself Brazilian waxed for 4 year. Even through my entire pregnancy!! After I had my most recent baby I stopped waxing. I just don’t have the hair for it. It’s very thick and coarse and waxing causes ingrown hairs with pain like you wouldn’t believe!! I just trim now and shave when I feel like it. But yes, women need to start taking back our bodies instead of letting other people dictate what we should do with it!

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  6. back in the day “push-push in the bush” was everyone’s favorite track. everyone understood the reference and it never occurred to anyone to challenge the power of the bush (plus the beat was everything)

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  7. I was born in 1970, if it has no hair on it, I’d be disappointed. The sent is Intoxicating. When you have a connection to the right person. So please stop shaving it bald. Please!!! I personally love a vagina that’s hairy. God bless everyone and have a great night.

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  8. Amen Sister, Im the owner of Vsmart Self Care Products/Wombtique where we empower young girls/women to take a holistic approach to vagina care. I so agree with you 100% what alot of queens dont realize is that everywhere God placed hair is for the *Protection* of that area.. Alot of women dont understand that the reason your vagina might have an odor could be for varies reasons such as:Diet, Stress, Toxic hygiene products, having unprotected sex with someone who isn’t clean, Infections etc. Shaving the so called odor away is impossible so i suggest you change the reason above and watch and see that you wont need to shave. Sis Thanks so much for this blog because it truly help me as a Womb Healer get the conversation going just wish it was more sister not afraid to tackle the *Vagina* topic which happens to be my passionate to empower!! Alot of women dont realize the use of white toliet paper could be causing infection along with your tampons/pads/condoms and the list goes on. Im looking to put an event together real soon and would be honored if we could collaborate!! Lets connect http://www.healmyvagina.com

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  9. I love to keep mine trimmed, but not bare. Just keep the garden tidy 🙂 That’s just my personal choice. I believe the reason so many shave completely is to clear the path for oral sex without distraction. But, bald is not necessary for that, and I believe hair is far more attractive and beautiful on an adult woman than a bald yoni.

    I so agree with you about the coconut oil. I love coconut oil, and it is a natural anti-bacterial. I have the post menopause symptom of thinning of the vaginal walls, and applying coconut oil is very good for this. It helps restore, it’s healthy and it feels and smells lovely. ❤

    Thanks for your bold and humorous article.

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  10. Exactly this topic is like the wetness of water to me and appears to be as the beginning of a new era in time. Much respect and blessing to you for your love and dedication.

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  11. When I REALLY sit and think about it, I was first introduced to this as a teenager. Yup, I was 16yrs old and I was with an OLDER man (what I now know as molestation). He shaved me at 16, he was 35…that was my first “lesson” in the way men like their women’s “pocket book” to look. I NEVER associated that first experience for me, being molested and having an older man tell me to shave, hell…he did it for me! I was already a child, and he wanted me to appear even MORE child like…that’s some bullshit (excuse me, I just connected some dots so a curse word fit)! Thanks for the blog and starting the conversation around this subject. I wonder how many more young girls have been exposed to this is some form or another!

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  12. I loved the article and yes indeed these ladies should thank you for that lol I agree not saying that I don’t shave but not regularly I font think its necessary

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  13. Sooooo…I’m a former triangle shape. Now, I’m a clean all the way type becaaaaause there are some no longer dark hairs. 🙈 So I take it off instead of having it look like the whiskers of an old cat(pun intended). This is a great read & I’m passing it on.

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  14. OMG I need to go get some coconut oil! What a great read. Unlike most in late 20s,I so agree. But my fiancé prefers shaved, I shave at times aND at other times keep it very low. It just feels more natural. He’s not complaining tho!

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  15. I stopped shaving my girl while still in my 20s. The irritation from the hair growing back would just be unbearable! I had a nurse tell me that shaving my vaginal hair was unnecessary, even unhealthy. Once I heard that, I was resolved on just mowing the lawn, which works very well. None of my lovers have complained!

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  16. I myself used to shave my woo bald in my 20s because of that damn porn smh. I learned my lesson when my fiance shave himself too, and sex was very painful. I now do a trim every so often but he loves it either way. He picks up on my scent when I’m turned on, and I find it sexy also.

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  18. Though the article says as a man my opinion me that carry weight, I’ll give it anyway. I was Imprinted as a toddler seeing my mother with an afro. And as a young father to the onlyHairless vaginal area I saw was my baby daughter.
    So a grown woman as hair and that is attractive. And that area without hair is a notice to any man that this is a child not to be touched.

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  19. Great article! I think women, most women, would agree that all the additional expectations are unnecessary and outdated, though they for some reason submit to these expectations! This article was informative and interesting! Thanks for the woman empowerment! Serenity to you!

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  20. Thank you Ashley! I too do it for self and have been since the age of 14… now 31. I think it’s pretty limited to think that most women are out here shaving for the likes of men and not just because THEY themselves prefer a clean shaven vagina. I was doing this wayyyy before ever having sex so a man’s approval wasn’t the motive. I personally don’t like how it looks or feels with hair down there…. no need to shade those with different preferences.

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    • Hi! Agree with roses ladies as well, I do it for myself. I only feel hair should be in two places, my eyebrows and my head. I wax and I like the feeling of my vajayjay after its done.
      I will try the coconut oil to keep the skin supple. Great article!

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  21. As a man, (even though our “opinions on this matter really don’t hold much weight”) I truly agree with this. I’m 40, my wife is 41, and we’ve been married since 18 & 19, and it’s truly something about a woman with some hair down there. It is attractive and let’s you know you’re dealing with a woman. Especially when a woman has that trail of fine hair that kinda leads up to their belly button. Oohhhh shit!! Now that’s sexy as hell. And hair on the legs is beautiful as well. Definitely gotta keep it trimmed up neatly though. If you can twist out your pubic hair or if your legs look like they can support a sew-in then…idk. The one thing I disagree with is the so called attractive odor. It’s not an odor that’s intoxicating…it’s a scent. When we think of odor we think of a stinch or awful smell, but when we think of a scent we think of something that smells wonderful, delicious, tasty, and sexy…like food or dessert (which vagina can be lovingly called 😉 ) Very good article. Enjoyed reading it

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  22. I agree that going to bald is not necessary for intimacy, but I personally prefer it. No one I have dated liked the baldie, and my husband now prefers a hairy cooch, but I like to keep mine as hairless as possible. You have to consider a couple of factors – vaginal sweating, which is normal, but can be a nuisance; pee in the pubes; even the type or grade of hair…that sucka can be coarse! I’ve done the “baldie method” since 2007, and have never looked back, except for a few times that I was too busy to maintain the bush. It’s made life easier. Before, I would be trimming and maintaining up to 4 times a week. My water bill wet through the roof with those long showers. Basically, it’s a matter of preference.

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  23. I bathe with black soap (banana leaves) Phenomenal for my skin and use, shea butter with palm oil..I also now use Apple cider vinegar for an astringent and deodorant. As far as the shaving of the va ja jay…I never shaved it until it turned grey…Sorry, I just don’t want to look at the grey hair…

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  24. Not too mention.. anyone else find it slightly disturbing those who want our woman parts to look like that of a pre pubescent girl?? Woman have hair.

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  25. I agree with you just be natural you don’t have shave to impress anyone if they can’t accept you for who you are then you don’t need be with them

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  26. I rarely comment on internet stuff, but had to co-sign this one. Completely agree on all accounts, really good advice and proud to say I’ve never been waxed. Thanks for the coconut oil tip 😉

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  27. i never had a issue of being very hairy down there but when i started seeing gray strings of hair down there i could not dye it like i do the hair on my head so i decided to wax it off …

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  28. Your dad had a very healthy approach and stance on women. Unfortunately the turmoil in the world had a lot to do with men who behave the opposite of your father. You are definitely very fortunate to have him!

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  29. Yes, I mean to each its own but glad we see the pros of NOT shaving it all off, I know men from mid 30s and up that don’t like a shaved cootie kat, they say it makes them feel like they would be having sex with a little child and would turn down a woman from sex because of it…..keep your hair down there ladies!!!!

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  30. Awesome!! And thanks I didn’t know about the refined coconut oil!! And for the record I don’t know of any woman who has never referred to the vaj jay as a choochie. lol

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  31. I believe it’s a personal choice. I personally prefer to be bald. I have my own reasons for that. It has nothing to do with trying to mask odors. I simply like the way it looks and the way it feels. If you choose to be bushy, that doesn’t bother me at all. So I’m trying to understand why the bald look irritates you? My boyfriend loves it also. It has nothing to do with pedophilia! That’s looney tune. Believe me he understands that I am a very grown woman. Can it just be about preferences?

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  32. I enjoyed reading your article.
    I think it’s a matter of choice. Many women shave/not shave for many reasons. I prefer shaving because I don’t like the hairs getting caught in my underwear (strange I know ).
    I will never wax!!!!!!!! I think women should make the best choice for her and what SHE prefers and likes, not because your partner wants it. If she chooses one way or the other and her partner benefits from it that’s just a big bonus.

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  33. 1st it was a good article, I have no discrepancies with what was said because it has truth 2 it all. I must say that it’s mostly a preference thing when it comes to shaving 4 me. And you hit on the head when you said we give off I scent to the opposite sex and it’s quite interesting to experience it when you realize that we do that. I really LOVE the smell my girlfriend/wife puts off when we go at it, but that’s a different subject. But nevertheless thanks 4 the article of knowledge 4 those who may not know what’s going on within themselves. #MR.ALR

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  34. 1st it was a good article, I have no discrepancies with what was said because it has truth 2 it all. I must say that it’s mostly a preference thing when it comes to shaving the cooch 4 me. You hit it right on the head when you said we give off I scent to the opposite sex. It’s quite an interesting experience once you realize that we do that. Nevertheless the article was good knowledge 4 those who may not have known what’s going on with themselves.#MR.ALR

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  35. LOL. Hey, to each her own. I’ve been shaving my poo nana since I was 12, so needless to say, it wasn’t for a man. I make no apoligies about it. No man I’ve ever dated or married had an issue with it, and I love it! Although I may try that coconut oil. Thanks for the article.

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  36. I LOVE this! :”) One guy I slept with had the audacity to say he “doesn’t like hair there” and used it as an excuse for his poor bedroom performance (???). Thank goodness I was already confident in myself (sometimes I wax, sometimes I don’t for months) so I just chuckled and let it roll off my shoulders, obviously didn’t answer his texts after that. This article really made my evening 🙂

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